I hear a lot of what I've been thinking through in this post. Especially about not knowing how to talk to white people who seem like they're being clueless/racist when you're pretty sure you're not done with sorting through your own 101 stuff. I find that when I try to convince other white people of something that has to do with anti-racism, I find myself being veeerrry careful about my tone, about not pushing too far from their comfort zone, etc., and I am really not sure how OK that is. I am pretty sure I could do more in the way of signal boosting PoC's own words rather than coming up with scaled-back, "palatable" messages of my own.