Ah, okay. Didn't mean to scream at you or seem like I was completely blowing you off. I guess I just get frustrated with people who use their personal upbringing as a shield.
I'm not doubting that anyone raised in politically and personally toxic environments has to do some extra work in making sure they listen and act compassionately, but I guess I'm annoyed because she doesn't seem to get that mainstream American culture ITSELF is quite politically/socially toxic and that anyone exposed to it for any significant length of time is going to be bombarded with some pretty awful things.
Especially when that person keeps telling us all how hard they're trying but the actual effort and results of that effort are nowhere to be found.
Also, I don't want to seem like I'm dismissive of any of your experiences in life. Because that occurred to me later that this could be read as me saying that I was completely brushing off your POV, and I'm not. Because it is good to hear from someone who can speak to something resembling her experiences and still say, "Nope, you can go through this and still not be an utter jackass when people ask you nicely to stop hurting them".
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Date: 2010-08-07 09:53 pm (UTC)I'm not doubting that anyone raised in politically and personally toxic environments has to do some extra work in making sure they listen and act compassionately, but I guess I'm annoyed because she doesn't seem to get that mainstream American culture ITSELF is quite politically/socially toxic and that anyone exposed to it for any significant length of time is going to be bombarded with some pretty awful things.
Especially when that person keeps telling us all how hard they're trying but the actual effort and results of that effort are nowhere to be found.
Also, I don't want to seem like I'm dismissive of any of your experiences in life. Because that occurred to me later that this could be read as me saying that I was completely brushing off your POV, and I'm not. Because it is good to hear from someone who can speak to something resembling her experiences and still say, "Nope, you can go through this and still not be an utter jackass when people ask you nicely to stop hurting them".