Well, sure you fit in, and your stories fit in. Lesbian pirates? Sweet Suffering Sappho, have you ever read "I Was Kidnapped by Lesbian Pirates from Outer Space?" (http://www.drunkduck.com/I_Was_Kidnapped_By_Lesbian_Pirates_From_Outer_Space/)
I think anyone looking to exclude you would be someone who's jealous of your heteronormativity. By that I mean that you can marry the boy and have the option from hiding from judgmental relatives or crazy religiots. Not saying that you do or that you're only queer when it's convenient. I know you, and that's not you at all.I'm just saying that some gay people think that way about bi people.
WTF is it with people who dig for reasons to exclude after they've been excluded? They know damn well what it's like. And it's not like the world needs more division and strife.
Often gay people discriminate against trans people. Like, they'll say a lesbian trans woman cannot be truly lesbian and want nothing to do with her. Or when a trans man who once IDed as a lesbian comes out as a straight man, he'll often lose the support of his community. And so will his girlfriend - who is probably struggling with it and needs the support of her friends more than ever.
And don't get me started on gay men vs. gay women.
I don't know what I am anymore. I'm not seeking to label myself, but I definitely have a lesbian relationship. In my own way I get to hide in that. When you ID as bi, you get the denotation of it along with a lot of connotations which are not true.
Not only can you fall in love with a man, a woman, or even someone inbetween, which would be the definition. People hear you're bi, and they may think all kinds of things. When you're a lesbian, sure, you're still going to hell, but at least no frat guy is going to ask you to have a 4some with their roommate and girlfriend.
Wow, I have really waxed on about this stuff. At any rate, sure you're queer. You're still wearing your pride bracelet, right? :)
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Date: 2009-02-16 04:10 pm (UTC)Lesbian pirates? Sweet Suffering Sappho, have you ever read "I Was Kidnapped by Lesbian Pirates from Outer Space?" (http://www.drunkduck.com/I_Was_Kidnapped_By_Lesbian_Pirates_From_Outer_Space/)
I think anyone looking to exclude you would be someone who's jealous of your heteronormativity. By that I mean that you can marry the boy and have the option from hiding from judgmental relatives or crazy religiots. Not saying that you do or that you're only queer when it's convenient. I know you, and that's not you at all.I'm just saying that some gay people think that way about bi people.
WTF is it with people who dig for reasons to exclude after they've been excluded? They know damn well what it's like. And it's not like the world needs more division and strife.
Often gay people discriminate against trans people. Like, they'll say a lesbian trans woman cannot be truly lesbian and want nothing to do with her. Or when a trans man who once IDed as a lesbian comes out as a straight man, he'll often lose the support of his community. And so will his girlfriend - who is probably struggling with it and needs the support of her friends more than ever.
And don't get me started on gay men vs. gay women.
I don't know what I am anymore. I'm not seeking to label myself, but I definitely have a lesbian relationship. In my own way I get to hide in that. When you ID as bi, you get the denotation of it along with a lot of connotations which are not true.
Not only can you fall in love with a man, a woman, or even someone inbetween, which would be the definition.
People hear you're bi, and they may think all kinds of things.
When you're a lesbian, sure, you're still going to hell, but at least no frat guy is going to ask you to have a 4some with their roommate and girlfriend.
Wow, I have really waxed on about this stuff. At any rate, sure you're queer. You're still wearing your pride bracelet, right? :)